Our strict Covid lockdown when only 1 person was allowed to go grocery shopping and the past year of an endless temporary living situation made some pretty dramatic shifts to how tasks are divided up in our house. My husband is definitely doing more perpetual chores than before. Thank you for sharing the words to describe them!
Oh yeah! The limits on people being able to go out of the house (and also, for us, having help in the house/calling over the plumber/electrician to fix anything) during covid certainly gave me a proper shock about chores division. I hadn't realized myself how much I'd taken on in the first place.
My husband has taken some time off work and is at home while I am in the office. This has been the best thing for our relationship as he now sees how much invisible work I do AND how quickly a day not filled with structured work can fly by. Love this discussion even if it is a bit disheartening sometimes
Ooh, it's cool how the (expected) roles are bit reversed in your home rn! I agree, practise definitely helps men understand how much women do (and honestly, sometimes we also don't recognize just how much we shoulder because it's 'expected' of us).
Thanks for reading! I agree, awareness & discussions, despite sounding so disheartening are important to take steps in the right direction. :)
I do the dishes, vacuuming, and take out the compost. My wife shops and does laundry, both of which I am eternally grateful for because I suck at folding clothes and hate shopping. He both take a hand in yard work and cooking. Our daughter is on her own so there is no more child care. Now it's fun. My daughter and I go out and close the karaoke bars.
My wife and I frequently thank each other for chores. We didn't always. In addition to being married we are BFsF.
I think that's awesome! 'Thank yous' always go a long way and I've always been a bit skeptical of those who say that saying thanks formalizes a relationship/friendship. I think realizing someone's done something (for you/your partnership) is a v cool thing to acknowledge. Thanks for sharing, Paul, and for reading too! :)
I think both partners being aware of the way the chores are being split (and acknowledging the mental load, whoever takes it on) is such a great thing! Thanks for sharing, Mike, and for reading too! :)
Our strict Covid lockdown when only 1 person was allowed to go grocery shopping and the past year of an endless temporary living situation made some pretty dramatic shifts to how tasks are divided up in our house. My husband is definitely doing more perpetual chores than before. Thank you for sharing the words to describe them!
Oh yeah! The limits on people being able to go out of the house (and also, for us, having help in the house/calling over the plumber/electrician to fix anything) during covid certainly gave me a proper shock about chores division. I hadn't realized myself how much I'd taken on in the first place.
Thanks so much for reading, Gillian! :)
My husband has taken some time off work and is at home while I am in the office. This has been the best thing for our relationship as he now sees how much invisible work I do AND how quickly a day not filled with structured work can fly by. Love this discussion even if it is a bit disheartening sometimes
Ooh, it's cool how the (expected) roles are bit reversed in your home rn! I agree, practise definitely helps men understand how much women do (and honestly, sometimes we also don't recognize just how much we shoulder because it's 'expected' of us).
Thanks for reading! I agree, awareness & discussions, despite sounding so disheartening are important to take steps in the right direction. :)
I do the dishes, vacuuming, and take out the compost. My wife shops and does laundry, both of which I am eternally grateful for because I suck at folding clothes and hate shopping. He both take a hand in yard work and cooking. Our daughter is on her own so there is no more child care. Now it's fun. My daughter and I go out and close the karaoke bars.
My wife and I frequently thank each other for chores. We didn't always. In addition to being married we are BFsF.
I think that's awesome! 'Thank yous' always go a long way and I've always been a bit skeptical of those who say that saying thanks formalizes a relationship/friendship. I think realizing someone's done something (for you/your partnership) is a v cool thing to acknowledge. Thanks for sharing, Paul, and for reading too! :)
I do the laundry, the vacuuming, the grocery shopping and all the trash. My wife does the bulk of the cooking, but I'm working to do more.
I think both partners being aware of the way the chores are being split (and acknowledging the mental load, whoever takes it on) is such a great thing! Thanks for sharing, Mike, and for reading too! :)